The Power of Attending Church Together: 3 Reasons Why it Strengthens Marriages

As a married couple, navigating life together has been challenging at times for us, but there’s one vital practice that has deeply strengthened our bond—attending church together. It’s not just about the Sunday ritual; it’s about aligning hearts and lives under God’s guidance and community. The Bible offers clear, compelling reasons why regularly attending church together should be a central part of your marriage too.

Here are three powerful biblical reasons why going to church together is so important for Christian couples:

1. Growing in Unity as a Couple

The Bible tells us in Matthew 18:20, “For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I with them.” When you attend church together, you are literally inviting God into your relationship. This verse underscores the importance of coming together in worship and fellowship, as it strengthens not just your connection with God, but also with each other. Worshiping as a couple creates a shared spiritual experience, bringing you closer to each other and aligning your hearts with God’s will for your marriage. The act of worshiping side by side helps you grow in unity, which is crucial for a lasting marriage.

2. Building a Strong Foundation of Faith

Marriage is a covenant, and Ephesians 5:25-27 reminds us that husbands are called to love their wives as Christ loves the church. This is a high calling that requires daily commitment, humility, and grace. Attending church together provides a consistent opportunity to nurture your faith, learn from scripture, and grow spiritually. You can also connect with other christian couples. Our church has a marriage ministry, and it has been such a blessing in our relationship. As you worship and learn together, you gain the tools to love, forgive, and serve each other in the same way Christ loves the Church. It deepens your relationship with God and strengthens your ability to reflect His love in your marriage. You also get the added benefit of accountability!

3. Creating a Christ-Centered Family Legacy

When you attend church together, you are not just strengthening your marriage but also laying a foundation for future generations. Deuteronomy 6:6-7 says, “These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” As a couple, attending church together models a Christ-centered life for your children, demonstrating the importance of faith, community, and worship. It sets a powerful example that can inspire them to carry on the legacy of faith in their own marriages and families. That is our favorite part. This practice will outlive us.

A Marriage Built on Worship

Attending church together is more than a weekly routine—it’s a practice that nourishes and deepens your marriage. It draws you closer to God and to one another, provides spiritual strength for the challenges of life, and helps establish a Christ-centered legacy for your family. So, make it a priority to worship together, whether it’s on Sunday mornings or any day of the week, and watch your marriage flourish as you grow closer to God and each other.

Can Two Walk Together, Except They Be Agreed?

Life can be chaotic. We juggle careers, parenting, ministry, and all the curveballs life throws our way. In the midst of it all, our marriage can sometimes feel less like a dance and more like two people marching to the beat of very different drummers.

We recently experienced this firsthand. We found ourselves in a difficult moment, our ideas for a key project heading in entirely different directions. He saw one path, and she was convinced another was the way to go. The disagreement was more than just a difference of opinion; it was a deeply frustrating battle of wills. It took time, a great deal of prayer, and a conscious choice to put our separate visions aside. Reconciling our differences was hard, but we knew the unity of our marriage was far more important than either of our individual ideas. We had to commit to walking together, even when the path felt uncertain.

The prophet Amos once posed a powerful question: "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?" (Amos 3:3, KJV). While he was speaking of God's covenant with Israel, this timeless truth applies directly to our marriages. A truly blessed and resilient marriage is one where two hearts beat as one, walking in agreement with each other and, most importantly, with the Lord.

A Picture of Christ and His Church

When we pursue unity in our marriages, we are doing more than just creating a peaceful home—we are showcasing the Gospel to our two young adult sons and to the world. Our union is a living, breathing testimony of Christ's relationship with His Church.

Here are some ways that we see this picture of Jesus and our marriages :

• Christ's Unwavering Love and Commitment: He gave His life for His bride, the Church, and remains faithful. When we, as wives, show our husbands unwavering love and commitment, we are reflecting a small piece of this divine love story.

• The Church's Submission and Reverence: The Church submits to Christ's authority with joy and reverence. Husbands, make submission easier for your wife, as unto the Lord. It is not about making them a doormat, but about trusting God’s design being honorable as the leaders of our homes.

• A Shared Purpose: Christ and the Church are united in one mission: to glorify the Father and make disciples. When a husband and wife are united in their spiritual purpose, they become an unstoppable force for the Kingdom, a "threefold cord" that cannot be broken.

Practical Steps for Unifying Your Marriage

So, how did we get from two different drumbeats to a beautiful, synchronized rhythm? Here are some practical steps that helped us to start walking in agreement.

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1. Pray Together, seriously: This isn't a suggestion; it's a non-negotiable. Begin and end your day by holding hands and praying together. It doesn’t have to be a long, eloquent prayer. Even a simple "Lord, thank you for my spouse, please bless them today" is a powerful step toward spiritual alignment.

2. Establish a Shared Vision: Sit down with your husband and talk about your dreams and goals. Not just for your careers or kids, but for your family's spiritual legacy. What do you want your home to be known for? How will you serve together? As you align your visions, you’ll find that your day-to-day decisions become much easier.

3. Be a United Front: In all things—especially in parenting—present a united front. If you disagree on a matter, discuss it privately, then come back and speak with one voice to your children. This models respect and strength, teaching them the importance of unity.

4. Celebrate the Small Victories (and Laugh at the Fails): Let's be honest, we won't always agree, and sometimes, those disagreements can be a little… funny even. Embrace a spirit of grace and humor. When you look back on a silly argument, be able to laugh about it together. It builds a beautiful history of shared experiences, both good and not-so-great.

Remember, building a unified marriage is a journey, not a destination. It requires intentional effort, grace, and a constant commitment to keeping Christ at the center. When you walk together in agreement, you not only bless each other but also become a beacon of light, shining a path for others to see the beautiful reality of Christ and His Church.

How to Avoid a Courtroom Showdown: 3 Surefire Ways to Stay Married (and 3 Ways to Book a Hearing)

In a world that often treats marriage like a subscription that you can cancel when a new version comes along, God calls us to a higher, more permanent standard. The vow is "'til death do us part," not "'til debt do us part" or "'til disagreements do us part."

So, how do we build a marriage that lasts a lifetime? And, just for fun, what are the express lanes to "Separate Street"? Let's get into it. Here’s our very unofficial guide on how not to get divorced.

Three Surefire Ways to Stay Married Forever

1. Cultivate a Terrible Memory.

That's right, I'm telling you to be forgetful! I want you to develop selective amnesia when it comes to your spouse's minor faults and past mistakes. Do you remember that time he tried to "help" with the laundry and turned all your white towels a lovely shade of pink? No, you don't. Do you recall that time she gave you directions that led you on a scenic tour of every backroad in the state? Nope, that memory file has been deleted. Holding onto a ledger of wrongs is exhausting and it's the fastest way to build a wall of resentment. Love doesn't keep score.

• The Biblical Blueprint: "Charity suffereth long, and is kind... thinketh no evil..." (1 Corinthians 13:4-5, KJV). Love, or "charity," doesn't sit around thinking evil thoughts or replaying an error reel. It lets things go.

2. Major in Laughter and Minor in Offense.

Life is going to throw some curveballs. You’ll have financial stress, parenting challenges, and days when everything just goes wrong. You have two choices: get offended and stressed out, or find a way to laugh. Choose laughter! Did he burn the toast? Laugh about your new "Cajun-style" breakfast. Did she accidentally donate his favorite (and ugliest) t-shirt? Giggle about its new adventure. A joyful heart is truly good medicine, and a shared laugh can disarm tension faster than any argument.

• The Biblical Blueprint: "A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones." (Proverbs 17:22, KJV). Don't let your marriage suffer from dry bones! Keep that merry heart pumping.

3. Serve Each Other Selfishly.

Okay, stick with me here. I want you to be completely "selfish" about how you can serve your spouse. Outdo one another! Race to see who can get the other person's coffee first. Compete to see who can be the quickest to forgive. Make it your personal, "selfish" mission to make your spouse's day better. When you're both focused on uplifting the other, you'll find your own needs are met more beautifully than you could have ever orchestrated on your own.

• The Biblical Blueprint: "Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another..." (Romans 12:10, KJV). The goal is to prefer, honor, and uplift your partner. Make it a holy competition!

Three Express-Lane Tickets to Divorce Court

(Disclaimer: Please don't do these! This is what we call "reverse psychology" in the creative learning leader business!)

1. Become a World-Class Archaeologist.

Your specialty? Digging up old dirt. Every time a new, minor disagreement pops up, be sure to bring up every single related (and unrelated) mistake from the past five, ten, or fifteen years. Never let an old wound fully heal. Keep it handy as evidence for the next "discussion." This ensures all your fights are epic, historical dramas.

• The Anti-Blueprint: This is the opposite of covering an offense. "He that covereth a transgression seeketh love; but he that repeateth a matter separateth very friends." (Proverbs 17:9, KJV). And what is a spouse if not your very best friend?

2. Establish the "Kingdom of Me."

In this kingdom, your needs are paramount. Your opinions are law. Your comfort is the highest priority. Your spouse is merely a citizen whose primary role is to ensure the happiness of the monarch (that's you). Make every decision based on "what's in it for me?" and view compromise as a sign of weakness.

• The Anti-Blueprint: This flies in the face of God's design. "Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves." (Philippians 2:3, KJV). The Kingdom of Me has a population of one, and it's a lonely place to be.

3. Appoint a Secret Third Partner: Your Phone.

Give your phone the best of your attention. Take it to bed with you. Stare at it lovingly during dinner. Laugh at its jokes while your spouse is talking. Let social media and the endless scroll become the "other person" in your relationship, stealing your time, attention, and affection. This is the most subtle, yet effective, way to create a chasm of distance without ever leaving the room.

• The Anti-Blueprint: God calls us to be present and engaged. "And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men..." (Colossians 3:23, KJV). Our marriage is a primary ministry, and it deserves our whole-hearted attention, not our leftover, distracted scraps.

My beloved friends, building a marriage that honors God is the most rewarding work you will ever do. It takes intention, grace, and a whole lot of Jesus. May your home be filled with laughter, your hearts with forgiveness, and your walk together lead you closer to Him than ever before!